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Thank You

April 25, 2012

To all members, followers, and blog readers

I just wanted to take this time and say thank you for your continued support.  VOS has been working to not only make this blog better but we have been working on the organization to make a continued difference in the lives of those we come across.  In 2007, VOS started as an organization to help young girls cross into adulthood in a positive way despite any obstacles they may have come across in their lives.   As we evolved we have managed to tackle many of the obstacles that can impact our young people.  On this blog we talk about whatever is on the minds of the writers that gear towards awareness to issues in society.  We talk about the good, the bad, and the in-between.  I hope that you enjoy the topics and please feel free to comment, participate in the polls, and view the videos.   Thanks again for your support.

 

Meka Holcomb

Take Charge and Protect Yourself

April 24, 2012

By taking charge and protecting yourself you show how much you love Y.O.U.  Many people in our lives will say they love you and care about you but that love and care can be backed up with action.  If a boyfriend says he loves you but continually asks you do something your not comfortable with is that love?  No one will try to make you do anything you don’t want to do and no one will continually try to break down that NO and turn it into a YES.  You can say you love yourself and do things that show that you don’t for instance, participating in unprotected sex.  Do you honestly think you love yourself while putting your well-being at risk?

You can take charge and protect yourself by:

  • Getting tested for HIV and make sure any partner or partners you have do the same.  Did you know that one in five Americans is living with HIV and they do not know it.
  • If you choose to have sex USE protection, please practice safe sex.
  • Do not be afraid to ask questions.  Talk your doctor or a counselor about any questions you may have education is the difference between knowing and not knowing.  Take the information to friends and talk to them about how they can protect themselves.

If you want to know where you can get tested go to hivtest.org.  REMEMBER:  TAKE CHARGE AND PROTECT YOURSELF LOVE YOU ENOUGH TO DO IT.

Thanks to Melinda Tripp at Teach Safety

March 19, 2012
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Special Thanks to Melinda Tripp at melindatripp.wordpress.com for sharing how she made a difference in the lives of many.  Below is her response to how she made a difference and Visions of Sisterhood would like to ask our followers to read her blog.

I made a difference by changing the way parents and teachers look at children’s safety education. Since 1994  I have spoken to over 100,000 Children and their parents through my safety series in elementary schools, and have published a book to guide parents to give their children a simple , evolving plan that they can tailor to their family , or if a teacher to their class. My blog, teachsafety is based on some of lessons from my book.

What Should You Do? Helping Children Protect Themselves in the Twenty-First Century by Melinda Reynolds Tripp Tate Publishing 2010  Available from Tate, bookstores or on Amazon
is based on my 1994 series of Abduction Prevention and Situational Safety Education Series.
I would love to have you follow me as I continue my journey toward every parent and teacher
Teaching a safety curriculum, empowering the nation’s children toward a safer generation.
Safety for children is my passion, blogging is new,  If you have any thoughts on marketing strategies, I am always pleased to hear from people as passionate as I am .  I am grateful to the many people around the nation helping me push for standards for situational safety education for all children.

Melinda Tripp

Take Personal Responsibility

March 13, 2012

What is personal responsibility?  Personal responsibility is taking responsibility of one’s actions.  There are times when we agree that others need to take personal responsibility for their actions however; there are times when we struggle to maintain personal responsibility ourselves.  Why it that we can nitpick on what others should take responsibility for but we fail to acknowledge our own mistakes?  For instance we can say that a “deadbeat parent” is not taking responsibility for the life they brought into this world but you may go to work and think it is okay to use company time for personal business such as making phone calls or surfing the internet.  The excuse you may use is that “I do not have time to make phone calls after work.”   A person who finds an excuse for every action they participate in is not taking personal responsibility.  My grandmother used to always tell me “If you have to make an excuse for what you do then it was wrong in the first place.”  We are so quick to justify our motives and so quick to deflect criticism.  It is so easy to find something that you may think is wrong with someone else however; we will not blame ourselves for our faults.  What makes our views and actions right or more correct than others?  We could be participating in the same exact actions as others and would be the first to tell them it is not correct but turn around and find our own justification in the action.  Taking personal responsibility does not involve making excuses it involves the willingness to admit and correct one’s faults and admit errors.  Adults when we start taking personal responsibility in our own actions our children will learn to take responsibility for their actions.  If you give something positive for children to mimic then there is a great chance they will take those lessons with them.  It takes a very strong, responsible, and loving person to admit their faults without judging others for their mistakes.

Tips: Help Keep Children From Violence

March 9, 2012

Studies show that seeing a lot of violence on television, in the movies, and in video games can have a negative effect on children.  In a follow up to a letter entitled “Teach Compassion Not Violence”, written by Vicki a mother who was disturbed by violence we found some tips that may help us control the amount of violence our children see.  Here are some ideas:

  • Limit television viewing time to 1 to 2 hours a day.
  • Make sure you know what TV shows your children watch, which movies they see, and what kinds of video games they play.
  • Talk to your children about the violence that they see on TV shows, in the movies, and in video games.
  • Help them understand how painful it would be in real life and the serious consequences for violent behaviors.
  • Discuss with them ways to solve problems without violence.
  • Help your children stand up against violence.
  • Teach children to respond with calm words
  • When they do something courageous let them know how proud you are of them.
  • Help your children accept and get along with others from various racial and ethnic backgrounds.
  • Warn your child that bullying and threats can be a set-up for violence.

Teach Compassion Not Violence

March 8, 2012

 

Visions of Sisterhood received this letter from a concerned mother today and we decided to share this with you.  This letter does not reflect the opinion of VOS or its writers.  Feel free to comment.

To whom it may concern,

On your blog you mentioned that if someone had a story to share you asked that we share it.  I don’t have a story I just have something I want to say and I ask that you post it on your blog.  Thank you

Our world has become a place filled with violence and destruction and our youth are stuck in the middle.  Violence has been apart of our history and is currently being displayed on television, in our music, and on the streets.  Reality television has turned violence into some form of entertainment rather than adults acting like adults they choose to use fists as a way to settle disagreements.  How can our society stand behind such garbage?  It is sad that making money has taken over all rationale thought.     People are scared to come out of their homes at night, kids are terrified to go to school, and the gang violence is out of hand.  The recent school shooting that took place in Chardon, Ohio has pushed me over the edge.  Our children are learning violence because they are surrounded by it.  In my opinion, violence is glamorized for instance in music,  songs like “Death to my Enemies” by 50 cent or in the “bling” that music artists wear given tribute to the streets where they made their money “hustling” as they call it.   Children can’t even go to school and learn for fear of bullying or being hurt in school because they don’t have protection.  I look at the city that was once beautiful and the people cared about each other and all I can do is shake my head.  The news is depressing, reading articles in the newspaper is depressing, and going online is even more depressing because it consists of nonstop violence.

This violence has to stop and it starts with the adults that are supposed to be role models.  STOP! Using these reality television shows to show people using their fists to settle disagreements.  STOP! Glamorizing the drug game people are dying you can make fast money but fast money will get you to an even faster grave or behind bars for life.  STOP!  A gang is not a family no one will make you do something that you don’t want to do just to make you “family”.  STOP!  Making music talking about sex, drug, and rock and roll you’re supposed to be a role model why don’t you act like it?  Mothers STOP!  Having babies you know you’re not going to take care of and leaving them feeling unloved helping raise angry adults who may turn to violence.  Fathers STOP!  Making babies and not taking care of them or giving them love.  Parents you can help you child become a kinder and gentler person who can develop a sense of caring and compassion for others, their communities, and most importantly themselves.  Young people have their own personalities that shape who they are going to be and parents do not have any control over that however, as parents we do have the ability to encourage children to become caring, fair, responsible, and non-violent.  When you see your child doing something that you think is thoughtless or cruel, you should let them know right away that you don’t want them doing that. Speak to your child firmly and honestly, and keep your focus on the act, not on the child.  For others, it does take a village to raise a child so if you see a child who is not getting the care or love that they need step in.  You can be the one person who can give that child a reason that a child does not grow up be violent or angry.  I am not saying that violence will go away or that some will not be prone to it I’m just saying that let’s try to help in any way we can.  It is possible to help combat violence just by starting in our own neighborhoods.  Thanks Vicki.

Young Teens and Women Being Convicted of Crimes of Possession

February 23, 2012

Teen girls are increasingly being convicted of possessing weapons by holding on to them for boyfriends and others.  Young women why would you want to put your life in jeopardy by holding on to a weapon for someone else?   This situation is very real there are many young girls who have been convicted of crimes of possession and are spending their days and many times their lives behind bars.  At the time, it may not seem like it’s a big deal but it’s a HUGE deal.  Awareness must be brought to this situation because of the increased level in which girls are being convicted of possession.  If you carry a firearm for a boyfriend or someone else you can become responsible for the crimes that they committed with the weapon.

Talk to teen girls in your families, their friends, your neighbors, or any young girl about holding on to not only weapons but drugs or anything that can cause them to be convicted of a crime.  It may not seem like much to talk about however it will be too late to intervene if that person you know ends up behind bars.  Many raise children to do the right thing and hope and trust that they are actively listening and practicing what they have been taught but no one knows what happens when parents aren’t around.  Young women your boyfriends may tell you that they love you and promise that you will not get caught and that they will not tell.  Those in jail for possession will be the first to tell you that those boyfriends disappeared after their conviction or that they fingered them as the person who owned the weapon.  In life there are times when we are vulnerable its just that we want acceptance and love that makes our vulnerability more apparent to those who want something from us.  Those who truly care about you and love you will not put in a position that will you in danger or make you feel fear, they will not use you, and they definitely would not ask you to do something that can land you in jail.

DO NOT HIDE OR CARRY YOUR BOYFRIENDS WEAPONS. You have to think about the consequences that you will face is you are in possession of weapons.  Please think about your lives, the lives of your family, those who have been victims of the crime committed by those weapons and their families.  Bring awareness to this issue by spreading the word.  It’s okay to say NO!